We went to a restaurant we’d never been to before last night. It got quite late, that’s why I’m only writing this now. There is something close to my heart I’d like to talk about, that’s why I decided to write in peace and quiet today.
The place we went to, Orchid, was a lovely Asian restaurant with great food and service and it gave me ample opportunities for further “firsts”:
The restaurant served Indian wine (very nice!), which is something I’d never had before. In fact, I don’t think I even knew it existed. And for dessert we had deep-fried ice cream in coconut batter. Definitely one of my favourite “firsts”! It just tasted absolutely amazing…
And then there was the fact that this was the first time C. and I went out for dinner just the two of us since two days before F. was born. For any young parents out there: I strongly urge you to take time for each other regularly and not too long after having a baby. It’s so hard, becoming parents buts also staying a couple. The parent thing sort of takes over and the romance can easily get covered by dirty nappies, sleepless nights and time suddenly being your most valuable – and sparse – asset. So don’t wait. Make time and space for nice and romantic things. Your baby comes first, of course, but stay connected to each other as well.
Talk, listen, stay up an extra half hour for a chat even if you’re tired beyond belief. And try and find some time for conversations that don’t involve the baby. You’re still partners as well as parents and the stronger your partnership is, the greater parents you can be.
Being parents is the greatest and the hardest adventure you will ever embark on. Make sure you’re in it together, strong and with love and respect for each other. Don’t feel guilty if you take a break from baby time for some couple time. It benefits all three (four, five, …) of you!